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Friday, September 24, 2010

nape kene kawin?

i had a various respond from a lot of different aspect and people from "nape lelaki lambat kawin".its just a small observation that i did when i kept wondering why guys never want to answer his girlfriend's request to tie a knot.

"mak kate, tak elok kawan lama lama, tapi tak da ikatan.. kalau boleh, bertunang dulu"
There you go. Bertunang first.Getting engaged doesn't guarantee anything. why don't you just get married,
once and for all.? why it has to be bertunang, bernikah and bersanding?

In this 3 ocassions, bernikah is the cheapest one. why?
mane ade pelamin kat masjid kan?
baju pun kaler putih.. murah..
makan makan pun takde sangat.. selalu trus datang mase bersanding aje...

But of cos this is just the general one. cos certain people are too rich, so, they just spend for the grand wedding, millions of receiption bla bla bla. kalau kaya, ape salahnye. yang tak berape nak kaya nih? ape cita?

The most important one is the cheapest one. YES. let's just do nikah, and we had the makan makan after that.can we??not to condem most of the parents who wanted the best for his daughter and son.
when the daughter wanted to get married, mummy said
"yang kau nak sibuk sibuk letak hantaran rendah apsal? bia la orang laki kerja kuat sikit."
yes mummy, but you forgot that you also have son that struggling to get married too and mummy said
"amboi.. mahalnye hantaran.. nak jual anak ke?"

Bias. why dont we just forget about all those hantaran things,
but, share the bills for food, flowers and dress. do it only one time!!
kawin kan sekali seumur hidup! buat sekali.
cos i still believe if you change seat while eating, you'll be married more than once.
takut tak? hahaha. just kidding.

Anyway, i am not going to be in the girls side or the guys side.
we just have to make a change. sapa tak nak kawin oi....

Why people are getting married
1) pressure from the community
not only in Malaysia, but people around the world are actually pressuring each other to get married and have kids. Most of us wanted to avoid the question of "Bila nak kawin" then once kawin, they would asked "bila nak dapat anak"  and bla bla bla.. never ending question.. nobody would understand how does it feel to be asking the same question again and again.

2) find someone that we love
Yes. Good reason to get married. but, please do remember that love only is not enough, if you're not ready to commit. In a way, your life should only focus to him/her. Make sure you have money to secure the love. Even though money can't buy happiness, but without money, will you be happy?

3) cos you think you find your best friend.
If you're ready to share everything with him/her. that is really good. but can you still love him if he lost what he has right now? Dont love him because of  muka handsome, kerja bagus and kaya. What if he's not handsome anymore, he lost his job or he's not rich anymore. will you still love him? 
You should be there to protect him/ her when been accused of the wrong doings. To be there for him/her when he/she needs u. To be there when he/she's sick or healthy, rich or poor.

4) To have kids
Getting married is actually nothing more than to have kids. that's why to raise a child, you have to do it with someone that you love and know well. That's why we need someone which has financial freedom (not rich) to secure the kids in the future. Good looking (not handsome / pretty) for at least the child has face. nothing more than that.

be married when you are ready to commit.
not to be married because of your parent ask you too.

be married that could share your happy and hard time
not be married because of your age is getting older.

be married with someone who u cant live without.
not the one who you can live with.

Be married and be happy

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29 comments:

Khumaera Ismail said...

well said.. =)

Rahimah said...

wahhh, idea mencurah di waktu pagi ye cik?

Nina Nurziana said...

khumaera - yep :)

rahimah - sikit ah.. hihi..

Rama2Ungu said...

bias mmg slalu ada kan..heheh

ajim said...

biar mati anak,jgn mati adat.agama amek ckit2 pon ok la..waddehel..

_aLiaHwaFa_ said...

ayat last tu best. huhu~

Nina Nurziana said...

rama : tuh la..hish..

ajim : nak wat cane.. suke sgt melebihkan adat yg bukan sendrik punye lak tuh...

aliawafa : kan.. ;)

ZoOL said...

hahaha.. betul2.. aku dh nmpk mcm2 benda berlaku dengan sedara2 dekat.. kawin awal, kawin tuuutt, kawin sethn pastu cerai, dah bergelar nenek bercerai pulak(baru je berlaku ni sblm raya), ada dh kawin tp suami x pernah nmpk muka mcm2 lg la..

sbb tu nk kawin, pikir2 la dulu camne nk rancang masa depan..

Pencacai Alim said...

sbb best kawen..hikhikhik

The Blogger (63672674) [meoramri] said...

Kalau nak kahwin bermakna nak mendirikan sebuah keluarga.

Aretikz said...

Fahami konsep perkahwinan.. Tahu tanggungjawab sebagai suami isteri.. kehidupan biar berlandaskan agama.. insyaAllah, benda yang mula baik pasti akan menten dan tiada yang akan kuar perkataan "jemu"

Puppet Koyak said...

:)
yeah, again a good post. :)
and bout the last quote in uur post.
ironically i made that as my facebook status last week.
but not bout marriage,but about relationships.:)

Pirate KL said...

im single hehehhe

+akufobia+ said...

likelikelike.jom kahwin.

Nina Nurziana said...

zool : mungkin dia xready sbnarnya

pencacai : sape xnak kawin oi.. haha

meor - btul!!

aretikz - insyaallah

puppet - good for you

pirate kl- me too

akufobia - kawin kene ade duit tau. haha..

Pirate KL said...

Too long being sangat berdikari seorg diri mungkin akan menjadikan kita lbh bersedia menghadapi dan menghargai kehidupan berumahtangga. :)

Uruchimaru @ kf said...

emm..interesting topic nina!

rahsia perkahwinan...

Anonymous said...

I love you...seriously!!!!

FareedSairi said...

kalo dah sampai jodohnya, InsyaAllah dipermudahkan segalanya.hehehe

nurAddin said...

wow..amazing!nice en3..>_<

Nina Nurziana said...

pirate : tul tul..

kf: best cite pasal kawin

anonymous : errk? haha

fareed : insyaAllah. amin :)

nuraddin : thank you :)

华益 said...

wah... nice words there...
a woman but you did a research on man... =)

Red Ribbon Boutique & Blog said...

i like this! followed u...

SAEED said...

thank you for these words, and thank you again for opening some eyes, why they want to get marry and why we need all these things you said in this once a time.
A marriage is to make us happy the boy and the girl but now before you thing to get married you feel sad because you must be ready for all of these stuff...
Then the parents when the boy come and ask to get marry their girl don't think also that also their boy will suffer when he think to get marry..
thank you Nina..Happy to be your world..
i want to share this in my FB with my friends.. can I?..Tq

{ w33da } said...

100 % agreed!
it's annoying bila keep getting the 'bila nak kawen' question.

what u write here sama macam apa yg i rasa. boleh share kah? :)

Nina Nurziana said...

tuh la dia masalah dalam masyarakat kita. nak share boleh dear,

nanti letak link saye ye :)

cKyN WaN said...

bertambah2 la sesak nafas golongan biasa2 mcm aku ni bile terbitnye wedding of fairytale n majlis kawen DR SMS tu n banyak lagi lah.

kadang2 kita terpengaruh ngan benda2 y orang kaya raya buat time wedding n secara tak langsung kita pun letak gambaran y susah kalo nak kawen.

Nina Nurziana said...

hmm.. tuh a.. xkawin kang mak bising pulak.. huhu

Anonymous said...

salam..cik nina, mohon untuk dishare di FB -nadeeazra